Dying to Self: Finding Our Soul

Most of us struggling to find “happiness.”  All over the planet many of us feel an urge to grow and find a personal and collective place of joy and peace. We each face huge challenges of becoming happier, we realize that there is no other form of growth than self-development, and this journey is one of self-discovery.

It is natural to seek answers to the questions “why” is this or that happening to me? But assuredly this leads to great frustration as we realize there is no real or satisfying answer.  We then move to a much more relevant question: “how do I become that person I want to be:, and without hesitation this dilemma encounters the greatest question of all: “Who am I?” A very few attempt to answer this question, it gnaws in their deepest and most remote part of their being and life, always a small thought in the back of our minds somewhere.  We think someday I will discover who I am some way.

Seldom do we ask ourselves or others, how do I lead a good life?  What is a good life? Who am I and what is the purpose for my being in this family, community, job, school or world?  In the Christian belief, we are to die to self and become more like Christ, possessing his attributes….we fail miserably each day.  Wrestling  with the idea of dying to self is a struggle, we always approach it with our mind therein lies the problem.

Getting to Know EGO:  One of the major obstacles we find in the journey of self-discovery, is the EGO. Unfortunately in our culture it is becoming harder and harder, because it is all about ME, my wants, my desire, my feelings etc. Other are more aware of our ego than we are…you know people with “over developed egos.”

We registered all of our impressions in the world as we grew up.  Our first society is our family, directed by our parents, and this is the first mirror and given source of concepts that we get subjected to. taking them on as our own, it gives us a sense of who we are. And of course there is the whole realm of ourselves that we do not yet know ( our unconscious self). The EGO becomes a character built up of multiple characters, concepts and the roles we play in society, in fact everything we have learned externally as good or bad. So the Ego, the subject of consciousness, as Jung defines it,is the complex of things that we have identified with, and by which we function. In other words we know about ourselves, or what we have chosen to know about ourselves are those characters  we play in all of our relationships.

Have you ever questioned where you beliefs came from? Are they truly yours or did  you accept them from, parents, friends, school, media, society.  Until you do remember:

You Are Not Who You Think You Are!

The TYranny of Being Nice

“Truth has a way of dividing”
I was having a conversation recently with a good friend, on the way to a nearby town to retrieve my pick-up that was being worked on.  During the trip we were discussing  many topics but one stood out.  Change and why we are not transformed in a real way by our beliefs. A thought that had been toying with me suddenly coalesced. We are exposed to many concepts of change, however few of us spend time “reflecting” on the concepts! By reflection I mean for example a particular scripture that might have an impact on you.  Do we mine it meaning on my life, my actions, how I see my fellow man, realizing how “fallen” my nature is? What do I need to change in my words, and actions to make that transformation real in my life?  Often in our conversation with one another we speak with a Christainese vocabulary, we know all the right words and we know all the correct phrases that demonstrate how “Spiritual” we are! It feels good, and sometimes is encouraging, however often it is something we do, with little result in our lives or those around us.WE OFTEN SUCCUMB TO THE TYRANNY OF BEING NICE. I hope that the writing of Mr. Rice has an impact on each of us, as we Reflect on his thoughts.  Be Well….

     I found the following article written by Rick Rice  Catholic Thought, “Courage, Culture, Justice, Moral Equivalence

I succumbed to the tyranny of nice, a rare thing for me admittedly.
Which makes this piece by Msgr. Charles Pope, titled “The Real Jesus Wants To Know Where You Stand” all the more relevant, timely and instructional:
There is a false, unbiblical notion of Jesus that emphasizes and isolates some of his teachings and traits, while excluding others. Hence there are many who reduce Jesus’ moral teaching to a vague notion that we should be nice and try to get along. This not only simplifies Jesus — it trivializes him.
Jesus, in describing his own ministry and why he was hated so irrationally that even Pontius Pilate had to marvel, said to Pilate: The reason I was born and came into the world is to testify to the truth. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me (Jn 18:37). Pilate scoffed, of course, and like a 21st century secular or libertine, said, “Truth! What is that?”
But there is something funny about the truth. The opposite of the truth is not just less meaningful, or just another opinion. The opposite of true, is false. Truth has a way of dividing. It will not abide competitors. That Jesus is Lord, is true. Anything different from this is not just less meaningful or someone else’s view — it is false.
Jesus says, “I am the truth” (Jn 14:6). As such he cannot be reduced to a harmless hippie going about speaking of love and inclusion. Did he speak of these things? Surely. But he also summoned us to a choice for him or against him. To choose for him was to be saved; to choose against him was to be condemned. The same Jesus who said, “Love one another” (Jn 13:34) also said, Unless you come to believe that I AM, you will die in your sins (Jn 8:24).
In times like these we are going to have to recover a healthy sense that Jesus not only unites many in his truth, but he also divides and distinguishes by that same truth. Myopic and wistful notions that Jesus want us to be nice and get along cannot supersede his command that we love him and put faith in his truth, even if it means our own family disowns us or is “offended” by us.
In this sense Jesus did not come to “unite” in some merely sociological sense. He came to distinguish his true followers from those who actually follow the world or Satan.

Once the Truth comes into the world, what is false must be rejected. Once the Light has come into the world, the darkness must be called by its proper names: confusion and obscurity. Once the Way has come into this world all other paths are excluded and lead only to Hell. Fr. Robert Barron says well and artfully: “Jesus compels a choice.” We are free to choose, but we must choose. Tertium non datur (no third way is given)!
Yes, in times like these we are going to have to recover notions that Jesus will divide, even as he seeks to unite us in the truth. We cannot go on clinging to a “Hallmark card theology” of pleasantries about getting along and being “nice.” Jesus did not end up before Pilate and nailed to cross by soft-pedaling the truth.
The Truth divides. And some of the divisions are very uncomfortable, reaching right into our families. There are going to be “weddings” we should not attend, gatherings we must refuse, affiliations that must end, affirmations we should not give, confrontations we must make, and silence that is no longer tolerable (if it ever was tolerable).
Indeed, we have gone on too long remaining silent — even approving — while sons and daughters, nieces, nephews, cousins and friends cohabitated, stopped attending Mass, got divorced and remarried and engaged in any number of other immoral and questionable practices.
We thought being quiet would bring peace. It did not. Compromises with the world and the devil do not bring peace but only demands for further concessions and compromises. At the end of the process we are silent, dead in our sins, and the world and the devil just have more victims. This mess we are in today happened on our watch. We who should be prophets are left shaking our heads and wondering how it got so bad. No real mystery here: silent pulpits, silent dinner tables, and suing for a false “peace in our times.”
Somewhere we bought into a notion of a fake Jesus, a harmless hippie who just wanted us to be nice and get along. But that Jesus would never have ended up before the Sanhedrin, or Pilate, or on a cross. The fake Jesus would not have had enemies at all. The fake Jesus would never have many who left him and would no longer follow him because of his teaching on the Eucharist (John 6) or marriage (Matthew 19), or his own divinity (John 8). The fake Jesus is loved by the world because the fake Jesus’ is of this world.
But the true Jesus stood accused before Pilate, and was condemned to die by a world that hated him because he was not of the world.
Seriously. Boom.
That is hard, dare I say brutal, honesty and well worth reading in its entirety.
I should have the courage of taking Msgr. Pope’s piece and passing it along to the person with the silent Christian friend.
I really should. God grant me the opportunity… and the courage.
Carry on.